You may have noticed that the books you really love are bound together by a secret thread. You know very well what is the common quality that makes you love them, though you cannot put it into words:. . . . Are not all lifelong friendships born at the moment when at last you meet another human being who has some inkling . . . of that something which you were born desiring . . . ?
Our friendship grew into romance and engagement, and then from a fragile new marriage into a tested and durable one. But this only happened through the "pearls before swine" speech, the Great Dirty Diaper Conflict, the "smashing the wedding china" affair, and other infamous events in our family history that will be described in this book—all mileposts on the very bumpy road to marital joy. Like most young modern couples, we found that marriage was much harder than we expected it to be. At the conclusion of our wedding ceremony, we marched out singing to the hymn "How Firm a Foundation." Little did we know how relevant some of the lines would be to the arduous and painful work of developing a strong marriage.
When through fiery trials, thy pathway shall lie, My grace all-sufficient will be thy supply.
For I will be with thee, thy troubles to bless And sanctify to thee thy deepest distress.
This book, therefore, is for those spouses who have discovered how challenging day-to-day marriage is and who are searching for practical resources to survive the sometimes overwhelming "fiery trials" of matrimony and to grow through them. Our society's experience with marriage has given us the metaphor "the honeymoon is over." This is a book for those who have experienced this as a literal truth and may have fallen back to earth with a thud.
The Meaning of Marriage by Tim and Kathy Keller. Published by Dutton Adult.