Two lies Christian parents believe … and the truth that gives freedom and joy to parenting:
LIE #1: "If my kids pray "the prayer" of salvation and know the story of Jesus, then my spiritual responsibilities as a parent are covered."
- Children who behave with outward compliance, but with sinful hearts that remain unaddressed.
- Kids who believe they are Christians and are not saved at all.
LIE #2: "The salvation of my children depends upon the way I parent … I am responsible for making sure my child becomes a Christian."
REVOLUTIONARY TRUTH FOR PARENTS:Any responsible parent wants to raise well-behaved children, but for Christian parents that's not the ultimate goal. What matters most is that kids are dazzled by the love of Jesus, but parents cannot force that to happen. Salvation belongs to the Lord! Parents can and should pray for their children's salvation, frequently integrate the gospel into conversations with their children, address heart-level sin problems driving misbehavior, etc. But the burden of of a child's salvation is not for the parent to bear. That burden belongs to the Lord alone.
- Stressed-out parents who are so burdened by this despair-breeding untruth that they miss out on the joy and freedom of parenting.
- Children who feel so pressured to act Christianly, internalize "law without grace" and never truly grasp the gospel.